What's It Like To Be A "Back-Up Plan"?
It FN sucks! It makes you feel unvalued.
That’s what our future landlord made us feel after going through all hoops of getting someone to rent our place so we can move into renting their house.
Friday, May 3, 2019
Inquiries came – a number of potential renters wanted to view our apartment.
Saturday, May 4, 2019
Cleaned the apartment for the potential renters who wanted to take over our lease. Things went well. Most of them were eager to rent ASAP.
Sunday, May 5, 2019
We provided an update to our future landlord that we might be moving forward after all with our agreement. We have 5 days left to make it official so we should be good.
Later that day, after the last of the potential renters left, I gave another update. This is to give our future landlord the confidence that we are going to follow through our agreement. I said, “By Wednesday, we’ll be able to make a final decision”
But then he came back with, “What if a potential buyer offers before Wednesday?”
That’s when the blood rushed through my head.
It turns out that he preferred to sell the house as opposed to getting it rented.
He gave us a deadline – we stuck to that deadline – but all of that changed when a potential buyer came into the picture to give an offer.
I suppose it was a “race” – whoever comes in first with an offer wins (renter or buyer, doesn’t matter).
But what about our verbal agreement?
I understand why he did what he did but that does not make things fair.
We were pressured into making a rushed decision.
No one likes to be pressured into making a decision – especially when that decision involves a lot of planning and long-term commitment (yes 1-year is long-term for me).
So we pulled back on our agreement and decided to stay in our apartment instead.
We had to go to the lease office first thing in the morning to withdraw our sublet application. Otherwise, we would’ve lost a place to stay in at because the eager renter who wanted to take over our lease could’ve gotten approved and acquires the right to kick us out and the house we’re moving into is going to be sold.
So all that time of imaging yourself moving out, planning how to move out and all that has gone to waste…
Screw Learning, "Game" The System
Now that I don’t have to worry about moving anymore, I can focus more on passing my insurance brokerage certification.
I’ve been talking about this for quite a while now and I feel like a broken record writing updates about it because I keep saying “I’m trying” but the reality is…I’m not taking it seriously.
I’ve been half-assing my efforts for such a long time now that it’s gotten to a point where I needed to procrastinate. I wanted the whole thing to end now. It doesn’t interest me anymore (not the selling part but the studying part of it).
It’s kind of like studying for the written test portion of your driver’s license – boring, stuff that you wouldn’t remember anyway even though they’re all fundamentals.
Oh and note that the exam is going to be an open book so it should be easy-peasy right? But it isn’t.
Eager to get the shit done and over with, I challenged the online exams again with little to no prep (other than the previous studying I’ve done in the past). But uhhm I failed preet-ty bad.
This made me feel stupid because it seems like I’m not understanding the topic at all. Which is why I decided to say f*ck it!
Instead of learning and understand the subject – I’m gonna focus on just passing the damn thing. That means, getting good at remembering answers as opposed to fully understanding the subject. *by the way, you have about 10 tries to pass the certification exam
This is how we do things in school – get good at getting good marks on subjects that we don’t really care about.
Happy Mother's Day
A Year Ago This Week
I…
- was angry and I felt guilty about it.
- wrote about stereotypes at work
- talked about how to leverage the value of networking
[Read more about it here]
Goal Update
Side Income Insurance Brokerage License Prep
winging it…
Health
nothing unusual. whatever routine I’m trying to build did not work out well.
Finance
nothing new to report.