When You're High on Emotions...
You’re most likely to take action.
Whether you’re angry, excited, inspired, scared, confident – does not matter. As long you’re in a “high state”, you’re more likely to do something – whatever that “something” is.
Sunday, April 28, 2019
The frustration we felt toward our neighbor (upstairs) last week (Week 17) drove us to look for a house to rent the next day. *we were in a high state of anger and frustration.
Then it turned out that we liked the house – small with a big backyard and a 2-car garage. *now we’re high on excitement.
Monday, April 29, 2019
Immediately the day after, we put out an ad to sublet our apartment.
Later that day, two potential renters came to take a look. They liked it and submitted their application the next day. *At this point, the thought of moving out became more real. Serious planning needs to be done as there is a lot of stuff we need to consider. The “pressure” crept in.
Tuesday, April 30, 2019
The applicant tried to apply but they couldn’t do it because I had to sign and submit our sublet forms first. I did not know that. Stuff is happening so fast that it didn’t even occur to me. I didn’t get to sign the papers until I got home from work.
Wednesday, May 1, 2019
The applicant’s papers were processed. Result of the application will come out in about a day or two.
Optimistic with the result and because we need to act fast, we started looking into renting a truck, look around for boxes to dump our stuff in, messaged family members to find out who can help out (as this is a last minute request, we do not expect everyone to free up their schedule for us.)
Thursday, May 2, 2019
Our soon-to-be-landlord and I planned on meeting in the evening so I can sign the papers and grab the keys from him. HOWEVER 5 hours prior to that meeting, the people who wanted to sublet our apartment were denied. *womp womp womp
So we had to hold off on signing the agreement as it would’ve been too risky for us.*now we’re sad, the applicants were sad as well as our soon-to-be landlord.
All that excitement we felt came crashing down and turned into sadness. And when you’re sad, you tend to not give a shit.
Now we don’t really care if we move out or not. We like the apartment, we just don’t like our neighbor upstairs. It just sucks how we had to adjust for them as opposed to them adjusting for us – they’re new and besides, the adjustment needs to be mutual.
All of that happened in one week.
It’s been a roller coaster of emotions and feeling of overwhelm as we were forced to act quickly – otherwise, we’ll lose our spot with the house we wanted to rent.
That explains why we had to act (super) fast. What I didn’t mention earlier is that our soon-to-be landlord has also given us a tight deadline because he also has his own deadline with the house (so he doesn’t have to pay some fee for it).
There are also other renters/buyers showing interest in the house – it’s on a first come, first serve basis.
One Step At A Time
That’s the best way to deal with overwhelming to do list.
Whenever I’m overwhelmed, I imagine myself doing a pile of dishes.
After cooking, I find myself overwhelmed with the number of plates and kitchen utensils I have to wash. Perhaps loading them into the dishwasher is the answer but I prefer washing it by hand.
And when you’re overwhelmed, the first thought that goes to your head when looking at the problem is “Holy shit, I have to do all of these?! This is too much!”
Then we think about putting it on hold and tackle it at a later time – because we just don’t feel like dealing with it. We come up with good excuses as to why we need to put our tasks on hold.
That’s what I’m doing right now with my goal of getting my brokerage license – I keep putting it on hold. I didn’t make it a priority because there are a lot more important things I have to deal with.
But that doesn’t mean that I need to keep putting it off.
Dust Yourself Off and Take Control
When we’re overwhelmed, we feel like we’re not in control. I fuckin hate it whenever I feel like I’m not in control.
No, no, I’m NOT saying I have full control over everything that happens around me, I’m talking about having control over my own behavior.
And when I say “control”, I’m talking about controlling the way I react to situations – to avoid acting emotionally and act more logically.
Often times, we let our mood control our actions. When that happens, things don’t usually end up as better as when we take a step back and look at things from a distance – without judgment – to see things as they are and not how we interpret them to be.
Because in reality, it’s not as bad as it sounds/looks.
A Year Ago This Week
I…
- wanted to gain weight.
- thought about the importance of focus.
- gave “Working Hard” a slightly different meaning
[Read more about it here]
Goal Update
Side Income Insurance Brokerage License Prep
Can’t focus on studying this week…however I plan on catching up this coming week.
I’m getting tired of making excuses too.
Health
6.5-hours of sleep (5x)
Beef + Kimchi breakfast (4x) this week
Cleaning the place makes me feel like I can keep things in order *talking about taking control
This whole month of May is going to be busy.
Finance
Spent approx. $30 per day on food – except on Fridays.
$45 beef lasts me for 4 days.